For many of us, fears come from our childhoods. We become preoccupied with the idea of failing. We become hypersensitive to the opinions of others. Fears can paralyze us. They can stop us from taking the action necessary to realize our dreams.
We hesitate. We procrastinate. We delay. We become indecisive. We make excuses and find reasons not to move ahead.
Fears can be caused by ignorance. When we have limited information, we are less likely to act. We fear change. We fear the unknown.
The act of gathering information about a particular subject can cause us to become more courageous and confident. The courageous person is not fearless. Courageous people control their fears rather than allowing their fears to control them.
Failure to confront your fears can allow them to increase and eventually take control of your life. As your fears increase, your self-respect and self-confidence diminish. When you confront your fears, your self-respect and self-confidence grow.
Some people fear rejection. They are obsessed with how they appear to others and have trouble taking independent action. Some even fear success. They may crave the attention they get by being helpless victims and fear losing that attention and support if they make progress and appear more secure and self-sufficient.
By objectively analyzing your fears, you can begin the process of eliminating them. You begin eliminating your fears and developing courage by taking actions that are consistent with courage and self-confidence and by confronting your fears and resolving not to be controlled by them.
The ability to control your fears and boost your willingness to act is a skill that can be cultivated and acquired. See our discussion on Courage for more information on overcoming your fears.